Be Kind

Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle


So, these past few weeks have been kind of difficult for me. I have mostly been dealing with health issues related to insomnia and cervical dystonia. Together, they give me the worst kinds of headaches! As I was driving home last night and the quotation above, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle,” came into my mind.

I got to work very late because I couldn’t drag myself out of bed. I haven’t had a long or good night’s rest in weeks. As I shuffled through my 8 hours and 45 minutes of torture, I could barely lift my head when I walked–mostly due to my neck weakness–but some sadness too. I feel like my life is a battle, and I am losing it. The physical and mental pain are exhausting.

Then I thought about my coworkers, husband, and friends. I thought about how offended I get when people are not sensitive to my health needs, but I often forget that everyone is struggling through something. Maybe someone was short with me because they are preoccupied with their own troubles, so I shouldn’t take it personally. Anyway, I kept thinking about how overwhelmed I felt, yet if I asked everyone around me to be truthful, they would all have their own stories and battles.

For example, I have a beautiful friend, who I thought had the most perfect life. She does have a wonderful life, but now she’s battling cancer. I have other friends who are so happy on the outside, but when I talk to them, they are hurting deep inside–they live with wounds that others have inflicted on them emotionally. I even have another friend with similar health issues to mine. I see her shuffling through the day, sometimes, too. And when I say that I shuffle, I mean that I barely pick my feet up. The pain is no joke, y’all.

Even though my sample size is small, if 100% of the people I’m close to are battling something every day, I’m going to venture to say that so is everyone else.

I know it’s idealistic to wish, but I think that if everyone kept this idea that they’re not the only ones who are hurting and struggling in mind, we might be kinder to one another. As a result, I think everyone’s burdens would be eased.

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  • Megan

    Sarah, this is so lovely. I’ve been thinking a lot about similar things lately. I’ve been really heart-sore at the realization of how many terrible things people say or do to each other without even thinking about it. It can be very hard to think outside of ourselves and be compassionate and empathetic, especially when we’re experiencing a particularly difficult time. I’m glad that some people at least realize that this is an important thing to consider whilst going about our lives.

  • it’s so true that we’re all often dealing with something and we forget that other people are too. being kind is a great thing to remember!

    • I know! It’s hard though, because I take things so personally! I wish I could be easy going like my husband. I’m always attributing malicious motives to things other people do, but in reality, they’re not even thinking about me. I’m selfish. I try not to be.

  • Sarah, I’m sorry you are in such pain right now. You make an excellent point – everyone has their own battles, and some we may never know about. I try to think about that when someone is rude or short with me and not take it personally. I’m not always successful, but I try.

    • Thanks. I am not successful at all and I am in a lot of pain all the time, so you would think I could be more compassionate!

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